Meeting a man or women you can be happy with can be a bit of challenge, especially if you have high standards. First of all, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being picky and having high standards. It’s much better to be choosy than to end up with someone you find yourself supporting. It’s always better to be on your own, than in a bad company.
But what about when you land the perfect someone only to discover he or she is extremely shy? You want to get to know the person, but for the life of you it seems that your special someone won’t come out of his or her shell. Thankfully, there are 13 excellent tips for you to follow. Let’s dive in and take a quick look at each of them.
1. Treat ’em like a friend
When the two of you first start dating, don’t push things fast. Instead, take things slowly. In fact, go so slow in the beginning that the two of you start wondering whether or not you would be better off as just friends? Before you know it, if he or she really likes you, you’ll find that they are coming out of his or her shell and making progress towards being that outgoing person you’re looking for.
2. Do most of the talking
If the person is shy, there’s a good chance that he or she won’t start conversations. If you’re really that into this great somebody, you’ll have to be the one who does most of the talking in the beginning.
3. Know what to look for
There’s a difference between shy and weird. You need to learn how to read your date’s body language so you can discover whether or not he or she is actually shy or just a complete weirdo.
4. Listen to what’s being said
When your special someone does actually open his or her mouth and say something, make sure you’re giving your full attention. Even if it means going home and writing down what was said, you need to remember what it is that was said. When your date notices that you remember things, he or she will know that you care and will be more apt to open up to you.
5. Tell a few little secrets
If you share a few secrets, this will likely lead to our date sharing a few with you.
6. Don’t break trust
When your date goes so far as to tell you a secret, don’t break his or her trust by blabbing it to your best friend.
7. Plan accordingly
If you know your date doesn’t like talking, plan dates that don’t require him or her to talk your head off. For example, going to the movies is a great way for the both of you to have a good time, yet your special someone won’t have to talk for like two whole hours.
8. Turn off your cell phone
When you’re with your date, make sure to give him or her your full attention; this means that you’ll have to leave the tweets for later and turn off your cell phone. Or at least leave it on vibrate in the bottom of your purse or in your pocket.
9. Introduce him or her to people who aren’t loud
Shy people don’t like being around loud people. Introduce your date to people you know won’t scare them away.
10. Be extra flirty
If you want your special someone to open up, be flirty. Before you know it, he or she won’t be able to resist and they will open right up to you. Just beware, you don’t want to overdo it and risk being a protagonist in a date disaster, like it usually happens it TV shows.
11. Don’t take things personally
If your special someone doesn’t call immediately after a date, don’t take it personally. It probably just means that he or she is sitting at home racking their brain trying to think of what to say to you when he or she gets the past the nervousness of actually calling you.
12. Never force him or her to do anything
If your date doesn’t want to do something, like attend one of your family events, don’t make them. And more importantly, don’t be mad. If they have children, and you want to meet them, that is great, just wait for them to invite you.
13. Be realistic
Don’t think that after spending two weeks with your special someone that he or she will immediately come out of his or her shell. A shy person takes their time. Within a couple of months, things should be better.